What? Me Worry? …Wait!

We can let go of the PAST
and of the FUTURE.

Attitudinal Healing Principle # 4

(NOTE: To see all the 12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing see blog post of March 15, 2018.)

TIP below *: To see Qi Gong exercise for energy, Centering and inner peace.

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WHERE IS YOUR MIND LIVING?     

This is perhaps one of the principles that many people relate to the most and have such a hard time practicing.  We are asked, here, to be fully open to the present moment…to pay attention, be mindful, of NOW, today, this moment.

Thinking           Dwelling on Past

LIVING IN THE PAST

In order to find inner peace we must get rid of our thoughts of our past and how we perceived a situation to be, especially those that are not peace-filled memories.  We cannot change the past, no matter how hard we think about it and want it different.  When focusing on the past those thoughts can become patterns of belief and then patterns of behavior in the present.  Do you continue to think about your past…over and over again?  Are you still “living there”?  If so, the past is recreated again and again in our present experience because we continue to act / react as if the past was still here.  In this way we are living in the past while we are acting in the present…and we are choosing to feel the stress from the past that is robbing ourselves of our present joy!

Past Experience        →     Learned Thoughts / Beliefs →     Patterns of Behaviors        →     Present Behaviors (reacting to past beliefs…wounded-ness)

WOUNDED WARRIOR / SUFFERING: As we live in our past in unpleasant memories, we continue to believe that we are a victim of that past (which, by the way, I say again…we cannot change the past…but we (unconsciously) keep trying to think of ways to try to do so).  As a wounded person we can be stuck in the past and cannot move forward to heal.  We need to heal the trauma of the wounded “child” that was hurt in the past.  This does not mean that we say what was done was right or not harmful…but we do not have to let it hurt us any longer.

“The Past Cannot Hurt Me Any Longer!  I Choose Peace instead.”

We are asked to be willing to give up the old feelings that we had in those past situations…feelings that we might believe we have a “right” to feel.  After all, “That person did that to me,” you might think. Or, “I was wrong. I am guilty.”  With this principle we are asked to let go of the past feelings, once and for all…and choose peace instead.  This can take time and time again to release but eventually we can chose peace more and more often!  “I can choose peace instead of thisA Course In Miracles tells us.  A great question to ask is, “Would I rather be right (ego based) or be peaceful?”  Which is more important to you?  The world will tell us to be “right” but our spirit tells us to choose Peace. Being right can actually mean conflict inside us as we feel the stress the past is still bringing in the present moment.  Which do you want to feel? 

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       THE FUTURE / WOUNDED WORRIER

What do you worry about that could happen, or not                   happen, in your future?  I know a big “hook” for me has           been about money. I can get a bit in my stomach that                 tells me I am in my fear base.  I don’t like that!  How about you?  What do you worry about?  Not having enough money in the future, poor health, family issues, the earth, world peace, politics, gun violence, etc.?  Do you know what FEAR stands for?  It’s False Evidence Appearing Real.  That means that we can be worried now about something that might NOT even happen…and again this worrying robs us of our present joy!

                                                        Worry - Joy    This does not mean we don’t do some planning for our future.  It is about how we FEEL about it.  It takes trust in our spiritual beliefs to let go of the worry / fear of the future and be in the present…that all will work out for our highest good.  There is a saying, “Let God handle the details”…and stop worrying.  Some might call this Faith / Trust.

WAIT! PRESENT MOMENT – BE HERE NOW

WAIT…just a moment…when you find your mind is thinking about unpleasant past situations or worrying about the future…STOP!  BE HERE NOW (as the book by Ram Dass says from 1971).  Why do we want to be in the PRESENT MOMENT?  Because this is when we can truly only release stress and feel love and connect with our Higher Power / God, and make a choice to choose love, peace and happiness over conflict, stress and fear.  Staying in the present moment involves being honest with ourselves about what we want to experience…and we can ask ourselves, “Would I rather be right (justified that the past was painful and continue to dwell on it…or worry about what might NOT even happen in the future) or would I rather be peaceful and enjoy NOWYou wait; you choose.

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What are you benefiting from holding on to the past or worrying about the future?  An important aspect to remember is that we have the power to choose…to choose peace instead of the past thoughts or worrying and stress that those bring.  As we continue to choose peaceful thoughts over and over and keep letting go of the fear-based feelings they will disappear and we will choose to live more in the present moment.  Attitudinal Healing teaches us to stay in the present moment to experience the richness of life, and love that is inside us NOW and always.

“I am whole, safe, and complete.  I am living in the PRESENT MOMENT… for my greatest good and highest healing.”

Qi Gong

* TIP: Each morning I perform the Qi Gong “Knocking on the Door of Life” exercise for energizing, but mostly for Centering and inner peace.  As I have gotten used to doing this simple exercise, I feel my Chakra energy as I repeat “I am open; I am open in this moment”.  And I also tap my Heart Chakra.  See how to do this in this 2 min. video:    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VJ-sBUzuBBk   

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(Some concepts are taken from “To See Differently” by Susan Trout (out of print but has been available through Amazon.com).

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What to Give???

Giving and Receiving are the Same.

Attitudinal Healing Principle # 3

(NOTE: To see all the 12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing see blog post of March 15, 2018.)

{See TO DO below….*}

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A number of years ago when I was seeing a therapist as an unhappy, passive, housewife, she indicated to me that there was no such thing as real altruism…I was confused…surely when I give to people, my family,  friends,  I am not receiving anything back from them.  Or am I?

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RECEIVING

I now know that I DO receive…I receive good feelings, that I did a good deed.  I receive their thanks, and it is important to them as well as to myself to receive fully and graciously so they feel good about receiving from me.  Do you see how giving and receiving is a flow of energy between people (maybe even elephants)?  There is a connection and unity now between two people that did not exist before and needs to be nurtured.  Even if others do not outwardly give us their thanks, we still receive the positive feeling that we did give to them.

When we give, if we do not acknowledge that we receive from the other person, we unconsciously think of ourselves as the “strong one, or the smart one, or the one who doesn’t need help” and them as “weak and in need of my help.”  This position not only separates us, it also feeds into our own fears of our own weaknesses.  And it can give the message to the other person that they are powerless and dependent.

GIVING        Girl giving          Giving-Forgetting

Giving is essential to our own well-being and healing.  Dr. Jerry Jampolsky, founder of Attitudinal Healing 35 years ago, has many stories of relief or healing when we give to others.  This is an opportunity to experience being charitable and allowing someone else to accept our loving “gift” whatever it may be…a phone call, a smile, a present, food, work, helping, listening, serving others, etc.

To give without the awareness that we receive can lead to emotional fatigue and burn-out.  It is important that each of us feel nurtured and even energized in a relationship.

Give with LOVE!  Open to receive Love!  YOU deserve it!

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MONEY

As well, how about giving money; does the same apply here?  Yes…and ten-fold.  It is an old principle that when we give to others, and increase the flow of money, we are rewarded much more.  And again, we are talking about the flow…giving and receiving.  Think of it differently this way, also; when you give money it is then received by another who then gives it to another for something, etc.  And the flow goes on, and even unconsciously we are thankful for what we receive for the money we gave…even if it’s our electric bill!

If we give with the expectation that our needs will be met then, we are giving for the “wrong” reason; we are to give unconditionally then open to receive for true connection.

And what is the most important thing to give and be open to receive?  Of course it is LOVE…all our lives!

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REMINDER of the GIFT

Giving and receiving is a flow of energy between people and connects people together…connects hearts.

No matter the question…Love is THE Answer…moment by moment!

*TO DO:

In the Leave a Reply area below, please tell me about some time that you remember you gave something what you consider awesome for you.  OR write a short reply about an awesome time you received.  Let’s see what kind of things people say!!!  Just do it!

*Here is my Reply:  (Please go to the Leave a Reply area.)
“I received a birthday surprise at my door:  flower, birthday card, a song, 
a stuffed monkey and balloons from a gorilla!
From my Granddaughter.”   IMG_0556

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(Some concepts are taken from “To See Differently” by Susan Trout (out of print but has been available through Amazon.com).

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What ARE…Why USE…the 12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing?

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More about Attitudinal Healing

As you learned in my first Blog post in my Mission and Purpose, I was a part of a Center for Attitudinal Healing (AH) for over 20 years and I use the AH thoughts and 12  Principles every day.  These idea are UNIVERSAL as the TRUTH is the TRUTH and many philosophies do believe the same things, just may say them a bit differently.

Attitudinal Healing is a cross-cultural method of healing that helps remove self-imposed blocks such as judgment, blame, shame and self-condemnation that are in the way of experiencing lasting love, peace, and happiness. It is based on the belief that it is not people or experiences outside of ourselves that cause us to be upset. Rather, it is our thoughts, attitudes, and judgments about them (outside influences) that cause us distress.

Health is defined as inner peace and healing as the letting go of fear. These are guiding principles in this groundbreaking work in personal, collective, and global transformation.

The approach and philosophy is based on universal principles and forgiveness. People of all ages, beliefs, walks of life, and cultures benefit from the practice of Attitudinal Healing.

12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing

  1. The essence of our being is love.
  2. Health is inner peace.  Healing is letting go of fear.
  3. Giving and receiving are the same.
  4. We can let go of the past and of the future.
  5. Now is the only time there is and each instant is for giving.
  6. We can learn to love ourselves and others by forgiving rather than judging.
  7. We can become love finders rather than fault finders.
  8. We can choose and direct ourselves to be peaceful inside regardless of what is happening outside.
  9. We are students and teachers to each other.
  10. We can focus on the whole of life rather than the fragments.
  11. Since love is eternal, death and change need not be viewed as fearful.
  12. We can always perceive ourselves and others as either extending Love or giving a call  for help.

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Attitudinal Healing affirms that we are responsible for our thoughts and whatever feelings we experience.

Attitudinal Healing encourages us to reexamine our relationships, bringing them into the present by releasing past judgments and grievances.

Attitudinal Healing is based on the belief that all communication is for joining and not separation.

Benefits

Benefits of AH

THE 12 PRINCIPLES OF AH BENEFIT PEOPLE BECAUSE THEY HELP TO EXPAND OUR PERSPECTIVES BEYOND NORMAL CONSCIOUSNESS AND THINKING INTO A MORE POSITIVE WAY ON HOW TO RESPOND TO OTHERS AND LIFE SITUATIONS.  WE LEARN THAT WE CAN MAKE THE CHOICE TO ENJOY A MORE PEACEFUL, WORRY-FREE AND LOVING LIFE.

“I can choose peace instead of this…stress.”
“I release my judgments and criticisms, of myself and others…and choose peace.”

Some of the possible benefits of Attitudinal Healing include:
(from http://www.AHInternational.org)

  • Experiencing ourselves as love.
  • Finding happiness and inner peace.
  • Becoming a love finder.
  • Counting our blessings.
  • Focusing on love rather than on appearances.
  • Laughing more.
  • Living in a consciousness of giving rather than getting.
  • Recognizing that there is something greater than ourselves.
  • Successfully letting go of fear, judgments, guilt, being a victim, fear of death, unforgiving thoughts, pain, blame, fear of the past and future, being a fault finder, withholding love from anyone including ourselves, our need to assign guilt or innocence, complaining and listing our hurts, fear of intimacy, and especially the need to suffer.

Wow!  Those are a lot of benefits.  It takes time, awareness and mindfulness to learn to choose differently from the way we have previously thought and lived…and we CAN!  Live…

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9 Steps to Letting Go of Fear

Health is Inner Peace.  Healing is letting go of Fear.

Attitudinal Healing Principle #2

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Healing is letting go of fear. So, the first question that comes to mind is, “What do we actually need to let go of?” We learn in Principle #1 that our fear base is comprised of thoughts such as: anger, frustration, guilt, shame, blame, judgment, criticism, jealousy, insecurity, and confusion, to name a few. It is any thought that is not loving to ourselves or others and causes us stress. It is our feelings of upset and hurt, which are NOT caused by people, things or events outside of ourselves but by our own thoughts and attitudes about them, that causes us to lose our feelings of inner peace and “health.” Stress, from the mind to the body, is a large contributor to dis-ease. It is healing of the MIND that is so important to remember with this principle. This is a way of “looking at a situation / healing differently.”

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LET GO OF FEAR

So then, how do we let go of these fear-based thoughts?

Susan Trout, Ph.D., in To See Differently, says that some of the steps to letting go of fear include:

  1. Recognize the fear. (What is the fear-base; what is not loving; what is the thought and feeling?)
  2. Confront the fear. (Meet it and decide to deal with it.)
  3. Communicate with the fear. (Talk to it in a loving way.)
  4. Be willing to have the fear released. (Decide that you want to get rid of it. It has no value anymore. Decide that you do not need to be “right”.)
  5. Ask for healing of the conditions that brought the fear about. (Ask God to heal the situation and your thoughts about it.)
  6. Open to the presence of grace (Spirit) in the process. (Be open to spiritual healing.)
  7. Stay with the process that unfolds. (Don’t give up; keep open to the gradual process of healing.)
  8. Acknowledge the progress as it is made. (Recognize your success in giving and accepting love more quickly and more often.)
  9. Be THANKFUL. (I added this one, to be thankful for your victory over fear and stress. Gratitude is always a peaceful mindset.)

I pace myself with one step at a time.
I know the perfect circumstances present themselves for my perfect continued growth.  I am LOVE.  I am JOY.  I am PEACE.
—  PATHWAYS OF LIGHT / Compliments of Gladie Hamilton

HEALING THE BODY?

As for healing of our bodies, this may or may not occur. Again, we are focused on healing of the mind here. I know this can be a different thought for many. Some “higher” thoughts about dis-ease might be: “Dis-ease has no value but to get our minds to turn to God. There is no other gain in dis-ease…so why stay there?” Our daily intention to continue to choose healthy habits in mind and body help us to let go of stress…but there are no guarantees…but many of us know that we can choose Love and Inner Peace and greatly reduce stress in the presence of illness. I had a bout with cancer and just knew I would be OK with the support of prayer and wonderful people in my life. I tell a little about this in the About Me section of this blog.

We can unlearn and get rid of our blocks to love and peace as we continue on our journey of Attitudinal Healing, continuing to have reminders and connecting to other like-minded people who support us to be who we really are….LOVING beings on this earth! It is a process of choosing LOVE in any situation.

No matter the question…Love is THE Answer…moment by moment!

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Envelope in the Mail – My FL Trip

Received Deceased Returned Card

Return to senderIt was the last Friday evening in January 2018 when I got my mail and saw a red envelope (Christmas card) that was returned to me from my “Step father” in Florida, marked DECEASED!  I was SHOCKED!  I had mailed it to him mid-December.  Is this TRUE?  How could I have not been notified?  I got on the phone that night with the police, fire department, and then two hospitals who finally said I had to call back on Monday.  I was sad and confused…but could not do more that night.

Being assertive, on Saturday morning I called the last hospital he was supposed to have been in and a wonderfully kind woman looked in the files and finally told me, “He expired on November 28th”!!!  Wow…2 months earlier…and no one knew he had family here?  I have asked him time and time again to put my name and phone number as emergency contact in his wallet.  Guess he did not do that.  I’d bought the condo with my Mom many years ago.  He was her partner for 20 years and took care of her when she was ill and passed away.  We, the family, appreciated all he had done, and he was Grandpa Lonnie to my kids and grandchildren, so he had lived in the condo for a long time.

IN FLORIDA

I wondered what he went through?  What happened to him now?  Where was he?  What about the condo that I own???  I found out his neighbor was he friend and with him at the hospital and in the end and took care of the body.  They did not think there was any family despite the fact that there are family pictures all over the condo.  I made airline reservations and we went to Florida and were there for 10 days in February.  It still looks like it did when my Mom was there and the last time I was there a few years ago…just like the 1970’s…gold kitchen appliances and all!

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Now is the only time there is and each instant is for giving. — AH Principle #5.

ONE DAY at a TIME!

The first day or two were full of stress and overwhelming and confusing…where to start?  Do I need an attorney and realtor?  Yes!  Who?  And Lonnie did not throw out anything; and so many papers, every drawer was full.  We had 10 bags of papers to throw out.  Can I donate stuff?  Made lots of phone calls…many resale shops have closed…people are not buying like they used to there.  Non-profits are not taking things or cannot get there for a while.  I did donate quite a bit to the Vietnam Vet and was so glad they could use the nice things!  One day at a time and things are working out.

LETTING GO

I knew this time would come but I thought I would have some “advance notice”; not this shock and immediacy but sometimes death can do that.  Right?

I took walks in the cooler mornings and evenings (80’+ hot!) and kept hearing…”Let it go.”  I talked to an attorney and a realtor…to my surprise, I am blessed to have family friends in Florida.  Now I finally had some support from people who know what to do as I had felt I was drowning.  We all deal with uncertainty at times and that gets us into our fear base.  I have been practicing Attitudinal Healing Principles and additional philosophies for over 20 years and as you can see, I continue to “practice”.

I have learned that worry just makes my body and mind feel uncomfortable and I CHOOSE to not stay there very long.  And so I CHOOSE to give the outcome up to God’s will…that is MY belief…in the Will of God is my Inner Peace.  Over time, I have learned to trust and not worry.  I want to be OK with that uncertainty when I don’t have any control obtaining the answers…they will come.   I let go of my fear of a “loss” from the condo and not being “known” to all the newer people around there.  I had felt like an “intruder” coming into the condo and to all the neighbors who knew this was Lonnie’s condo, although most of them were very welcoming.  I did not need to be known as God knows and accepts me.

According to ACIM (A Course in Miracles) the condo, money, stuff, furniture, neighbors, all my feelings of loss, fears, confusion, etc. are part of the worldly “form” and not of the Spirit.  As with Attitudinal Healing (AH) “form” is E.G.O. (Edging God Out) and not of the Spirit / LOVE.  I choose to be on the side of Spirit, on the side of LOVE…this makes me happier and more at peace!

At the end of the 10 days, I left the condo behind me not having answers, yet, about this part of my future.  This is OK.  AH and my Christian beliefs help me to have Faith / Trust…and I am at peace.

(More about this when we join together with AH Principle #8 in a few months.)

We can choose and direct ourselves to be peaceful inside regardless of what is happening outside.  — AH Principle #8.

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Big Love; Love Big. 

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

 You’ve felt alone, angry, frustrated, guilty, or worried about the future?  Feelings are normal; they aren’t bad until they affect your life.  You’ve tried to change some of these feelings that interfere with your relationships or in living your life.  Perhaps you’ve felt a bit discouraged with yourself and your inability to control your feelings, attitudes and actions that result.

What is your cost for your current “bad attitudes”?  Sometimes it can lead to sleepless nights, hard time concentrating, the breakup in friendships / relationships, work issues, not feeling good about yourself…stress can cause ill health as lots of health studies show us.  We consider these attitudes as fear based.

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When I started in Attitudinal Healing I was a worrier and I have learned to feel what that feels like in my body and how to stop those thoughts.  I just don’t want to feel like that anymore!  I also was a bit judgmental / critical of others and now try to catch myself when I have those thoughts and learned to accept others more…just the way they are.  The 12th AH Principle has really helped me a lot to see that we are all “extending Love or giving a call for help.”  More on that later.  I am living a much more peace-filled life because of seeing life differently; “seeing through the eyes of Love!”

“Those who Love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your wholeness when you are broken; your innocence when you feel guilty; and your purpose when you are confused.” – Alan Cohen

As a Child; Forgetting Love

I’ve heard a story about children and Love.  It’ about a new baby boy and his 4 year old sister.  The sister wanted to be in the baby’s room alone with him and Mom did not want her to be there but gave in one day and listened at the door.  The sister said to her little brother, “Tell me about Love and where you came from as I am beginning to forget!”  Out of the mouths of babes!

I have a strong belief that babies come into this world pure and full of Love (see AH Principle #1, Blog Post of January 24th) and that the “world ego and adults” teach children to forget the unconditional Love they originally felt.  Then there are the “terrible twos”…and the opposite of Love is getting stronger and stronger.  In AH we believe this is the worldly ego that is the opposite of Love, our fear base as has been mentioned in blog posts before.  Right here it’s important to just understand that there is Love and there is the opposite of Love.

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As an Adult; Not Feeling Love

It was a Thursday evening, just like any other Thursday evening when I was facilitating my Attitudinal Healing (AH) personal growth / support group, which I’d been doing every week for about 10 years, then.  We had 5 people in the group that night and one lady told us about how she didn’t feel any love.   She’d been having family problems due to a child with a long illness and she did not have family, friends, or any type of support.  She felt all alone.  I asked her if she felt any emotions that day.  She remembered her cat being on her lap and that that felt good.  I mentioned that animals give us unconditional Love moments, I will call “Love Lights”.

I wondered, why did this woman’s story make such an impact on me that I still remember that woman and that night?  I felt so sorry for anyone who feels that alone and not feel Loved.  I was a blessed child to have such loving parents and now have a wonderful family and friends.  I know others who do not have this and that causes them anxiety and stress and is more challenging for them to feel and give and receive Love.

What can We Do?

For this lady, and others, I suggested that she begin to keep track, like in a journal, of ANY experience and emotions that feel good whether she is giving or receiving Love with anyone or anything…could be with a friend, family member, stranger, an animal…and even giving to yourself.  The first steps are INTENTION to change and AWARENESS.  The time to begin is NOW, so grab your planner or journal and keep track of “Love Lights” and powerful Peace-filled moments. 

“You have been so helpful to me and I truly appreciate the time we’ve shared together.   Thank you for being such a good listener, so kind, and compassionate! I found our group to be empowering and I’ve learned a lot.  I will continue to keep the AH principles in mind.”  –  L.B. 2017

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READY, SET, GO … Attitudinal Healing Principle #1: The Essence of our Being is Love.

No matter the question…LOVE is THE Answer…moment by moment!

The Geratest is Love

“AH” 101

Our world and lives may seem a bit more chaotic lately.  Many of us are going through tough, stressful times, with added anxiety and it appears that it is challenging for us to stay in a peaceful place.  This is the time when our Love essence is even more important to be aware of.  The Principles of Attitudinal Healing “AH” are a guide for us to use, daily, even hourly, to stay out of our “fear base”, every attitude that is not loving, (see below) and have more inner peace, and less stress, that we all are seeking.  So, let’s take a look at the essence of our being, LOVE.

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LOVE BASE

If you will think back to seeing a young infant…perhaps in your family; do you doubt that that small child was full of love?  Can you see the love in their eyes, their sweet, little face looking at our fundamental nature…this is truly who we are.  We can learn “To See Differently,’ that “Love is a given, a permanent energy in the universe and in each human being; it is our natural state.”  It is connected to our Spirit rather than our “earthly ego”.

What are some expressions of LOVE?  They are:

  • Kindness
  • Caring
  • Respect
  • Honesty
  • Support
  • Friendship
  • Understanding
  • Communication
  • Compassion
  • Forgiveness
  • Unity
  • Smiles, etc.

These are experienced when we are in our Love Base…connected to our Spirit.  A thought of LOVE, then the feeling of LOVE, is where an act of LOVE begins, so thoughts of LOVE are very powerful and energetically connect us all.

THINK LOVE  →  FEEL LOVE  →  ACT LOVE

Daily Affirmation: “I am lovable, I am loving, I open myself to accept love. I feel love. I give love…today and everyday.”

FEAR BASE

As we grew up, we learned to block that Love Essence through judgments we learned and experiences we had along with the feelings from our FEAR base such as:

  • Anger
  • Frustration
  • Guilt
  • Shame
  • Blame
  • Criticism
  • Condemnation
  • Worry
  • Separation
  • Abandonment

These name a few…which are the opposite of LOVE.  They are all Fear-based attitudes that become actions, which we experience when we are attached to our “earthly ego”.  They have been learned…so they can be unlearned.  That’s good news!

PRACTICE

Please do not despair because of your limitations on experiencing this principle to its fullest.  As we connect with our Spirit, we strengthen our awareness of love within ourselves…and can become more aware of the love essence within us and others.  And as we see love expressed from others, it reflects our own love essence back to us, as we are all connected through LOVE.  Practice paying attention to feeling your Essence…and when you do not.

CHOOSE LOVE NOT FEAR…it is your choice.  Start today.  We will be practicing, going from our Fear base to our Love base, all year…it takes practice.  I do it every day!

Some concepts are taken from, To See Differently, by Susan Trout (out of print).

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THINK AWESOME; BE AWESOME; LOVE AWESOMELY; LIVE AN AWESOME, PEACE-FILLED LIFE.

With Awesome Love and Powerful Inner Peace,
Susan  

This Awesome Attitudes Blog for Peace is non-denominational and non-political as it is a community to unify in kindness, respect, and compassion.